I am a big fan of utilizing the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. It was after reading “In Quest of the Mythical Mate” by Dr. Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson in graduate school that I became deeply fascinated with the process that all couples go through in the course of their relationship. This model looks at neuroscience, attachment styles, levels of differentiation, and trauma, to compassionately address conflicts at their root.